“[the excellent wife] looks well to the ways of her household,
and does not eat the bread of idleness” proverbs 31:27
the bible teaches that mothers should manage their households well, and have a homeward focus. though this certainly doesn't mean that every second of the day and every thought of her head must revolve around her household and family, her orientation should be homeward. often times, careers can get in the way of this homeward focus. but being a stay at home mom does not guarantee that a mother is managing her household and family well; there are plenty of other things that can distract her.
children's activities. moms can get very busy driving their kids around to karate, soccer, cheerleading, dance class, swim team, and so on. not only can this be a big burden and distraction on mom, it can also take away from important family time. sports practices and other activities are often scheduled during the dinner hour, making it impossible for a mother to fix dinner, much less getting the whole family to sit down together to eat.
these activities may also be a day-time distraction. i know of some mothers who go to play dates with other moms/kids on a daily basis. it starts to take away from their one-on-one time with their kids, and makes it hard to fulfill their household duties.
in our culture with the ease of getting places and lots of leisure time, opportunities for kids abound. however, activities like these can become burdensome and enslaving. in order for a mother to be able to serve her family well, she may need to limit the amount of activities her children are involved in. it also helps to keep a focus of discipleship with your children: choose their activities with an eternal perspective for the whole family (what is going to benefit the family most for eternity).
the internet. it is amazing that with technology these days, a mother can stay in her house all day without even thinking about her household or family once. the internet can be a huge distraction to many mothers. even "good" things: keeping up with friends, looking up recipes, learning home keeping tips, or finding fun kiddo activities, can become bad things when they distract from a mother's important service to her family.
hobbies. hobbies are a much needed outlet for many moms. some hobbies, like gardening, sewing, scrap booking, baking or knitting may even contribute well to the needs of the household. but just like the internet and children's activities, good things can be bad things when they take over your life.
certainly, we honor God when we enjoy life through things like hobbies. but the bible also makes it clear that the christian must lay down her life and desires to serve others at times. so, there could be times when your hobby needs to be set aside so that you may serve your family well.
what other things can distract mothers from having a homeward focus?