this week, i have been reflecting on our wedding, sharing some of our story, as well as some biblical foundations for your heart while planning a wedding.
today i will share more of how we did our wedding on the cheap (we had about 200 guests and paid about 1/10 of what the average wedding costs these days) but still got lots of good feedback from our guests.
the average couple spends $550 for their cake? the very cake that some guests wont touch, others will complain about feeling guilty for eating it, and that only provides a few minutes of silly photo opps? however, many people are duped into thinking that they "have" to have a wedding cake. bakeries know this, and they also know that they can charge a lot for wedding cakes, so they do.
instead of a cake, consider having a dessert bar, with various different desserts made by friends and family (many would love to bless your wedding by getting to contribute in this way!). even if you cant ask people to help you, you could buy various delicious looking pre-made desserts from a store like costco and still save lots of money. just don't forget to have plenty of coffee to go with your delectable desserts!
to save even more money, you could turn the dessert bar into the main spread, and nix appetizers and a meal (just make sure to let your guests know so that they don't come hungry expecting a full meal!)
or take it a step further and forgo cake all together. this was my initial inclination, since i think that wedding cakes can often times be an over-the-top frivolity. however, my cousin graciously offered to make our cake as a gift to us. she is not a professional, but she has lots of experience. she did a wonderful job with our cake, as you can see in the picture above.
hair and make up
consider asking a friend or family member who is good with styling to help you beautify on the day of your wedding. there are many books and magazines that you can refer to for tips and ideas on this (i used this one).
i was blessed to have my good friend shahera do my wedding hair and make up (i lucked out... not only is she one of the best dressed people i know, but she is also in the fashion industry!). you can see her putting the finishing touches on my hair in the picture on the left. she did a great job, if i do say so myself :)
i also know of people who have gotten free make-overs at department store make-up counters the day of their wedding in order to save money.
as a side note on the topic of honoring your future husband with how you look on your wedding day, ask him about his preference for your hair, make-up and even your dress. alex really wanted me to wear my hair down. though this isn't what i would have chosen at all, i wanted to look the best for him (and no one else) on that day. i also know of guys who have had strong preference about the general look of his bride's dress (though obviously this doesn't mean you actually have to show him your dress if you don't want to!)
what about you? do you have any frugal wedding cake or beauty tips to share?
go on to part four here...